“GENDER” What is gender? Its not just a word which we see in an application form but understanding of which has been deep-rooted in the veins of the people.
Remembering myself two years back before interning with Men against Violence and Abuse (MAVA) I wasn’t about such understanding which i had grown up with and indirectly promoted through various actions in my life.
The basis of this understanding is our system called Patriarchy and it has given birth to predefined gender roles /recipes which leads to inequality amongst all genders. During my internship at MAVA, I went through a gender-neutral track in the form of Games, Sessions, Documentary films, Street-plays and then i developed a thought that there is another space in which alternative life can exist and that space was my “SELF SPACE” where I am not bound with any societal norms. This self space is a new world for me where i built a gender neutral behaviour in the form of Positive Masculinity, where it is ok to show our emotions; it is ok to cry; where you are not a loser if you don’t perform; A space where it is important to understand feelings of other genders.
Today, in my house, my mom doesn’t allow me to do any household work, but still I insist and do. This way, I try to deconstruct these roles from my house first. I feel it is high time where men are sensitized towards the needs of other genders in order to reduce gender-based violence.
It is found in young men that they perceive two ways of being a man. One way was to be a Macho Man, Second is the traditional stereotype who dominates women and do not show any emotions.
Media played a big role in propagating these gender stereo-typical themes, especially the sexist songs which catches up in pop culture. I have remade a popular sexist song of 90’s “TU CHIZ BADI HAI MAST-MAST” in a new perspective.
- Ravi Jaiswal
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